Last weekend, forcefully, I went to watch ‘Ranjhanaa’ with my family. I am purposely late in posting this article as I didn’t want to reveal the suspense to those who haven’t seen it. Though the movie was satisfactory but the story line made me upset. Both the lads, Abhay Deol and Dhanush, who were madly & blindly in love with Sonam Kapoor, succumbed.
One thing that makes me mad is how can love makes anyone so crazy that he just ruins or even worse, ends up his life.
It’s not something which is just shown in movies but it is happening everywhere - around us, in our locality or may be in our own family but we may still be unaware. We all take it for granted that boys are tough and can take anything & everything jokingly but fact of the matter is that they easily gets victimized through this feeling.
I can recollect one such grievous incident which happened in our neighbourhood. A 21 year old boy, a very dynamic student, the only son of his family, ended his life by committing suicide. The reason was a girl in her life, whom he loved dearly but she didn’t reciprocate his feelings. How unfortunate it is that a girl, who may not even have similar / any feelings, become so important to someone that she fades away all the love, which their parents & siblings would have given him.
I can recollect one such grievous incident which happened in our neighbourhood. A 21 year old boy, a very dynamic student, the only son of his family, ended his life by committing suicide. The reason was a girl in her life, whom he loved dearly but she didn’t reciprocate his feelings. How unfortunate it is that a girl, who may not even have similar / any feelings, become so important to someone that she fades away all the love, which their parents & siblings would have given him.
BOYS!! Please always remember that you are darn special and important to so many people. Your life and death matter to them, their numberless dreams tagged with you and their life just revolves around you. How can you let a girl overpower the love of all these people?
The famous saying “Love is Blind” alludes that lovers tend to overlook their sweetheart’s faults. It definitely doesn’t imply that you can’t understand what is good for you and your life.
LOVE, such a sacred feeling, makes you to love your life, live it with zeal and do something for your love / loved ones. LOVE is meant to make life beautiful and inspire for living and not death…
An untold truth for all the Gentlemen!! If women are the most beautiful creation of God, believe me, you are the most handsome creation of God!! You play every role so responsibly, be it of a son, a brother, a father, a husband or a lover.
Emotions are good but don’t get carried away so much with your feelings that someone, who doesn’t even care for you, play with your heart.
You have your own life, your family, your responsibilities, how can it be ruined like this?
Whenever anyone gets into any such situation, he should try to move on in his life.
So rightly said, “Time is a great healer”, leave everything to time and follow these points:
- Try to divert your mind with your favourite sport or activities like gymming, watch comedy movies/serials as laughter is a great medicine.
- Spend more time with good friends and family.
- Avoid visiting places or doing activities which reminds you of her.
- Never listen to sad songs like, ‘Jab dil hi toot gaya hum je eke kya karenge’ or ‘Jeeyein to jeeyein kaise bin apke’.
- Focus on your career/studies.
- Remember your parents are the only one who loves you unconditionally and will be with you in all trials and tribulations.
And wait for the perfect girl, the girl who will love you more than anyone else, who will make you feel special and she would be the only one who will deserve you completely.
One more thing to share is never blame anyone for your condition not even the girl. It’s her life and she is free to take any decision about her life. Like it is important not to hurt yourself, it is equally important not to hurt the girl as well.
Always keep in mind that you are the sculptor of your life and God have sent you from heaven to carve it beautifully.
Let me conclude it with the help of few lines of a poem by George Linnaeus Banks :
“I live for those who love me,
Whose heart are kind and true,
For heaven that smiles above me,
And waits my spirits too.”
Good observations and nice article.
ReplyDeleteI am feeling motivated to write more frequently to hear such encouraging words..
DeleteYaar u hav writen a very nice article which is very true.but wat i thnk is dat it is one sided u hav written about the guys who fall in love but wat about d girls. Pyaar to dono ke liye hi ANNDHA hai.
ReplyDeleteAnother thing which i must say is dat ur suggestions a very helpful.but difficult to follow. one who falls in love does not see or listen anythng. And if dat guy/girl fails then they ruin their life because if one follows these suggestons then life would have been very simple
LOVE SHOULD.BE YOUR LIFE NOT TAKE UR LIFE
First of all, many thanks for taking out time to read this write-up. I completely understand your point, but I wrote this basis some facts & figures which is publically available. Statistics show that out of every three cases of suicide reported every 15 mins. i
Deleten India, one is committed by a youth(age group 15 to 29) and boys die by suicide about four times as often girls.
Another important thing which I kept in my mind while writing this write up was not to generalize it to both genders.
As far as following suggestions is concerned, I strongly believe that better to fight & lose than not to fight at all!
DeleteI know so many people who were completely broken in love and now they are living happily !!
Must say you have written a lovely quote !!
Truly said and
ReplyDeleteLife is too short to stress yourself with people who don't even deserve to be an issue in your life!
Thanks for your views and being in agreement..
ReplyDeleteCompletely agree with your points.
ReplyDeleteTime is a great leveller and I have faced this in my life. What God decides for you is much better than what you decide for yourself.
All the best for your next write up !
Thank you so much Tanuj !! :-)
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